In the realm of sexual assault, stealthing stands as a deeply troubling violation, often cloaked in silence and misunderstanding. Stealthing, the act of non-consensually removing a condom during sex, strips individuals of their autonomy and exposes them to physical and emotional risks.

What is stealthing?

Stealthing is a form of sexual violence where one partner removes a condom during intercourse without the consent of the other. This deceptive act breaches trust and disregards the explicit or implied agreement between partners. The repercussions of stealthing can be significant, including the risk of unintended pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), and emotional trauma.

The impact on survivors

Survivors of stealthing often grapple with a whirlwind of emotions, from confusion and anger to guilt and fear. The violation can leave them feeling powerless, their trust shattered. The psychological toll can be immense, as survivors may struggle with anxiety, depression, and a diminished sense of self-worth. The physical risks, including potential exposure to STIs and the possibility of unintended pregnancy, can further compound the trauma.

Legal landscape

Removing a condom without consent during penile penetration can constitute rape under English and Welsh law. Consent to sex with a condom is not consent to sex without one. A prosecution must establish the legal elements of rape, including the absence of consent and the absence of a reasonable belief in consent. Read more here.

Steps to take after experiencing stealthing

Ensure immediate safety: Prioritise your physical and emotional safety. Reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or a support hotline. Consider reporting the crime to the police, if you feel ready to.

Seek medical attention: Seek prompt advice about STI testing, any preventive treatment you may need, and emergency contraception where relevant, as some treatments are time-sensitive. A sexual assault referral centre (SARC) can provide medical care, specialist support, and forensic examinations, including if you have not decided whether to report to the police.

Document the incident: Outcry Witness allows you to record the details of the assault. This documentation may assist a later investigation if you decide to report the crime.

Reach out for support: Connect with counselling services or support groups specialising in sexual assault. Speaking with others who understand can provide comfort and guidance.

Explore legal options: Consult with a legal expert to understand your rights and the potential avenues for justice in your jurisdiction.

Outcry Witness offers a vital platform for survivors of stealthing to document their experiences. By providing a safe and confidential space, we allow individuals to record the details of their assault, preserving information that may assist a later investigation or legal proceedings. This does not replace forensic evidence collection or guarantee a particular legal outcome. The act of documenting the experience can, in itself, be a step toward reclaiming agency and finding a sense of empowerment.

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